Saturday, February 28

Babyproof - Emily Giffin

Claudia Parr never wanted children, not even for a moment. They're fine for other people, but not for her. This had been a relationship killer with previous boyfriends, and when she met Ben Claudia was concerned that her decision would spell the end for them too. She was delighted to discover that he felt the same way. Happily married for two years and now in their thirties, Claudia doesn't know any happier, more in sync couples than they. Until Ben drops a bombshell - he's changed his mind and thinks having a child will deepen their relationship.
Ben might say all he wants is to discuss children as an option, but Claudia feels betrayed. Her decision was made long ago and is a significant part of her identity; Ben knew how she felt from the beginning and they had a deal. She still loves him but her position isn't negotiable. Within months the marriage is over and Claudia's in the midst of a new relationship, but she finds herself worrying about Ben and who he might have children with. Will she reconsider, or is it all over?
Before I get to the plot itself - I'm clearly out of the NY upper-class set, because I have no idea what a "monogrammed john-john" is, except that it's clearly an article of clothing and it's (they?) teamed with knee socks. Moving on.
As a childless-by-choice woman in her thirties (not that this has been an issue with potential partners), I was interested in seeing this reflected in a genre better known for a-ring-and-a-brood endings. The characters, particularly the protagonists, are well drawn and sympathetic, and the secondary plots (including Claudia's sisters, who have relationship and reproductive issues of their own) are strong.
I was concerned, however, that Claudia's decision not to have children, a position integral to both her character and to the novel, felt weak. Not born from ideology or intellect, experience or fear, it read more like something she chose once and never returned to or reflected upon. My position, for example, comes from a combination of elements and though I haven't changed my mind I do from time to time think about what having children of my own would be like. Claudia, on the other hand, steadfastly refuses to even consider the issue, as though any softening equals capitulation. She also tends to reach unfounded conclusions and project her own perceptions on to other characters as though they were fact.
That said, a flawed heroine is far more interesting than a perfect one, and while frustrating Claudia is likable and human. the ending is somewhat controversial, though open to interpretation, and all in all I quite enjoyed the experience. While far from perfect, Baby Proof is definitely superior to the majority of chick lit offerings. - Alex

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